Writer's Block: Girls and Boys

[veronica_rich]

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Yeah, abstinence only ... LOL ... because if we don't tell them, they won't find out. Any adult who believes in that after Bristol Palin and Levi Johnston - not to mention their own childhood - is just being willfully naive and argumentative for the sake of hearing their own voice.

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[finding-neo.livejournal.com]

Someone who will tell the boys, "Be responsible when you stick it!" Not where, just when, meaning use a freakin' condom.

I just cannot believe we still let men get away with impregnating girls with little to no responsibility. If she gets an STD, she pays for it. If she gets pregnant, she pays for it. I don't care if you go after paternity, a 14 year old doesn't have money. And yes, 14 year olds are getting girls pregnant. The sister of a girl who works for me got pregnant at 14 by a 14 year old.

Not to mention that WE pay for it too because our taxes pay for the Medicaid, the WIC cards, etc. Most young women who get pregnant don't get married. They become a burden on the welfare system because there is no incentive to get married. I don't blame them at all, they're just taking advantage of the system. But if someone wants to limit benefits to those who are married, that is discriminatory or violates civil rights. What if the guy's a dick, they say? Dick didn't use a condom, he needs to pay up.

I guess I'm a social conservative on this, but mainly it's because men get away with so much - of course, look who runs the government.....

John Edwards is like the poster boy for this. I am surprised there's not a secret male cult set up to worship him. Oh. If we knew, it wouldn't be secret, would it?

[starrdust411.livejournal.com]

I think telling the truth about the consequences of sex is important both for in school and at home sex education. My aunt recently gave a sex lecture to her teenage granddaughter and told her that all STDs were fatal. Obviously I didn't say anything, because who am I to talk about sex or parenting, but I personally felt that it was wrong to use lies/scare tactics to get the girl to stay away from sex. (Although my aunt's heart was in the right place, since her daughter had gotten pregnant at 16 and the granddaughter was the result of this encounter).

[hippediva.livejournal.com]

*G* Something like what my Mom did---told me the facts and added "don't expect your father and I to fly you to Aruba if you get yourself knocked up' (Obviously, this was pre-1973). Then my cousin did exactly that and got married at 17. Seeing her put aside all her dreams for the future was a very practical lesson in "no glove, no love".

Abstinence is disingenuous BS idiot adults pat themselves on the back for. Information is key. *G*

[bayliss.livejournal.com]

I think kids should have to go through a class with homework detailing the biological changes that the human body goes through and detailing the STDs, the proper use of a condom, and the different types of birth control available for use. Instead of the 10 minute movie and the 5 minutes with the school health nurse I got in my town.

If kids can understand the changes and understand the options I think kids will be able to make good choices. I had a friend tell me that her mom told her until she could say penis and vagina without giggling she wasn't mature enough to have sex. She didn't have sex until she went to college. :-)

[keechakatt.livejournal.com]

My mother used the tactic that she felt was most effective. "If you come home pregnant, you can pack and go. If you're old enough to do that, you're old enough to get a job. I raised kids and I'm not raising anyone else's."

The funny thing was I had never been active. It did make me think about three meals a day and room and board for free. I wasn't about to mess that up over one night of fun and an 18 year obligation at the minimum. My friends didn't believe my mom would kick me out. I knew better. My bags would have been on the porch in a second and no grandchild would have made a difference.