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Writer's Block: Friend Me
Apr. 23rd, 2012 01:03 pm[Error: unknown template qotd]
Real life never changes that much unless I move, and then I tend to add, not subtract. I don't keep up as well with everybody I've met over 40 years' time as I'd like, but in most cases I can only blame myself. As for LJ friends, I definitely still have most of the ones I had three years ago. And I've added a few more through various channels.
Who do I miss most? Definitely![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
gryphons_lair, who died earlier this year. She was fair and capable of disagreeing with someone while staying calm and without getting personal, and I do feel the lack of someone like that to sort of reel me in once in a while like she had to, on occasion - not because I was that way toward her, but with other people that she could see the conversations.
I don't defriend lightly, but on occasion I'll do it simply because there's been a parting of the ways on interests or no conversation - no animosity, just not enough in common to keep up a contact. I can think of three defriendings in the last three years that bothered me, that were because of conflict; two of those, I did the defriending because my philosophy is, when your friends start making pointed, specific personal insults at you without provocation, it's time to take them out of that category.
Real life never changes that much unless I move, and then I tend to add, not subtract. I don't keep up as well with everybody I've met over 40 years' time as I'd like, but in most cases I can only blame myself. As for LJ friends, I definitely still have most of the ones I had three years ago. And I've added a few more through various channels.
Who do I miss most? Definitely
gryphons_lair, who died earlier this year. She was fair and capable of disagreeing with someone while staying calm and without getting personal, and I do feel the lack of someone like that to sort of reel me in once in a while like she had to, on occasion - not because I was that way toward her, but with other people that she could see the conversations.I don't defriend lightly, but on occasion I'll do it simply because there's been a parting of the ways on interests or no conversation - no animosity, just not enough in common to keep up a contact. I can think of three defriendings in the last three years that bothered me, that were because of conflict; two of those, I did the defriending because my philosophy is, when your friends start making pointed, specific personal insults at you without provocation, it's time to take them out of that category.
