Writer's Block: Friend Me

[veronica_rich]

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Real life never changes that much unless I move, and then I tend to add, not subtract. I don't keep up as well with everybody I've met over 40 years' time as I'd like, but in most cases I can only blame myself. As for LJ friends, I definitely still have most of the ones I had three years ago. And I've added a few more through various channels.

Who do I miss most? Definitely gryphons_lair, who died earlier this year. She was fair and capable of disagreeing with someone while staying calm and without getting personal, and I do feel the lack of someone like that to sort of reel me in once in a while like she had to, on occasion - not because I was that way toward her, but with other people that she could see the conversations.

I don't defriend lightly, but on occasion I'll do it simply because there's been a parting of the ways on interests or no conversation - no animosity, just not enough in common to keep up a contact. I can think of three defriendings in the last three years that bothered me, that were because of conflict; two of those, I did the defriending because my philosophy is, when your friends start making pointed, specific personal insults at you without provocation, it's time to take them out of that category.

Comments

[bayliss.livejournal.com]

I don't have (m)any RLF, I don't make friends easily. I don't keep up with them all that well either. My biggest problem is my weird interests. it's hard for me to make friends.

I don't un-friend lightly, either. You have to do something horrible or not update your journal for 5 years or something. :)

[janamelie.livejournal.com]

Your first paragraph could have been talking about me. I was (very) late getting online properly, which didn't help.

[bayliss.livejournal.com]

Are you speaking to Ver or to me? If it is to Ver, Sorry.

If it's to me, a lot of the people I have worked with in the past thought I was stuck up because I would sit by myself at breaks and meals. When they did come over and talk to me and ask me why my answer was always the same, "It's harder to get hurt by people if you don't let them in." I don't trust easily. Lets just say, those of you who are on my f-list are trust-worthy and I let you in.

[janamelie.livejournal.com]

Yes, I was talking to you. :)

The problem I often have is just not being interested in the same things as the majority of other people. Or so it seems.

[bayliss.livejournal.com]

I've gotten far too many,"You like that? But it's so weird." Or the "I don't get that, so I don't like it." The thing is, I am willing to try almost anything, if i like the person enough to be their friend. But too many people I knew wouldn't do that for me. Some times it's just easier to get my socializing online. :/

[xenafox.livejournal.com]

Ugh I feel like losing friends to ~drama is a weird trend for me... x.x

Am tempted to answer this question myself...