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veronica_rich ([personal profile] veronica_rich) wrote2009-12-17 08:02 pm
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Writer's Block: Honesty is such a lonely word

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Why, no. Not at all. It is far better to squirrel away your annoyances and grievances until you let them fester into resentment and imagined slights, and instead simper and hint around once in a while that things might not be quite as good as they should be. We wouldn't want to be impolite or unladylike, after all.

[identity profile] gobsmacked.livejournal.com 2009-12-18 05:53 pm (UTC)(link)
Honesty is better given directly to the subject of it than by a third party. By this I mean: if you have a beef with someone, it's best to tell them before it gets back to them via a third party. Particularly true if you value the relationship in any way.

[identity profile] veronica-rich.livejournal.com 2009-12-19 03:45 am (UTC)(link)
In all seriousness, it's also better not to over-honestize when addressing someone directly - IF you value the relationship, that is. What I mean by that is, vocabulary is important. If you want to preserve a friendship, you can tell someone you're upset with them or their behavior without calling them names or using the harshest, nastiest language you can find.

Unless you're ending the friendship. Then it's totally acceptable. (But don't do this and expect the person to stay your friend!)

/not directed at you