Well, I never thought I'd want to have kids until I met my Dwarf and he was all into having a kid and I was like "okay, let's see how we are in five years or so" and then after 5 years I thought "yeah, he honestly wants to have kids and will do half the work (even though it doesn't always work out perfectly) so let's do it" and then we decided we wanted another and now I'm done. No more. I was never opposed to having children, but there was no way I was going to reproduce until I had some proof I wouldn't be on my own with them.
Just thought I'd get that out of the way before I commented.
I don't understand the crap people give women who don't want to have kids. I grew up with my mum always dissing my aunt for not having children, and it always kind of irked me. I respect someone who recognises that they are not the mother type. I think far more harm is done by women who are utterly unsuited to motherhood, yet feel they must have children because it's expected of them.
I do resent childless people who bitch about paying taxes, becuase public schools and libraries and parks and swimming pools benefit everyone - an educated, fit and socialized populace is what makes a modern civilisation run smoothly. You don't only pay for schools for your own kids - you pay for schools so you'll have a literate generation who will be able to fix your computer and treat your illnesses and do your accounting and work for your company etc. But that could just be me being a godless socialist or something equally Canadian.
I'd say maybe half my female friends have kids, and half have decided not to have kids. I've never had any conflict around the issue, because I respect people's rights. I can't imagine telling someone "Oh, you'd be a great mom. Go on, have some kids." Eek! Talk about bad advice. I would never think to ask a couple "so, when are you going to have a baby?" either. How intrusive! But I guess those sorts of things are more "normal" out there in the mainstream. (Yet another reason to hide from the world!!)
Kids are not for everyone. Heck, some days they're not for me. I don't regret having them. I love them (some days more than others) and try to do what's best for them (also, some days are better than others) and enjoy being a mum (but am really glad they're gone camping with their dad for five days...)
My life would be totally different if I hadn't had them. Seriously, I would have done so many things I've enver been able to do. I would have gone to school properly, full-time, and I would have more of my mortgage paid off and I would probably still fit my clothes from before I had kids. But I try to look on the bright side - I wouldn't have such luscious tits if I hadn't breastfed...
Anyway - good on ya for knowing your mind and not succumbing to stupid peer pressure!
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Just thought I'd get that out of the way before I commented.
I don't understand the crap people give women who don't want to have kids. I grew up with my mum always dissing my aunt for not having children, and it always kind of irked me. I respect someone who recognises that they are not the mother type. I think far more harm is done by women who are utterly unsuited to motherhood, yet feel they must have children because it's expected of them.
I do resent childless people who bitch about paying taxes, becuase public schools and libraries and parks and swimming pools benefit everyone - an educated, fit and socialized populace is what makes a modern civilisation run smoothly. You don't only pay for schools for your own kids - you pay for schools so you'll have a literate generation who will be able to fix your computer and treat your illnesses and do your accounting and work for your company etc. But that could just be me being a godless socialist or something equally Canadian.
I'd say maybe half my female friends have kids, and half have decided not to have kids. I've never had any conflict around the issue, because I respect people's rights. I can't imagine telling someone "Oh, you'd be a great mom. Go on, have some kids." Eek! Talk about bad advice. I would never think to ask a couple "so, when are you going to have a baby?" either. How intrusive! But I guess those sorts of things are more "normal" out there in the mainstream. (Yet another reason to hide from the world!!)
Kids are not for everyone. Heck, some days they're not for me. I don't regret having them. I love them (some days more than others) and try to do what's best for them (also, some days are better than others) and enjoy being a mum (but am really glad they're gone camping with their dad for five days...)
My life would be totally different if I hadn't had them. Seriously, I would have done so many things I've enver been able to do. I would have gone to school properly, full-time, and I would have more of my mortgage paid off and I would probably still fit my clothes from before I had kids. But I try to look on the bright side - I wouldn't have such luscious tits if I hadn't breastfed...
Anyway - good on ya for knowing your mind and not succumbing to stupid peer pressure!