"Again, fortunately, nearly all the mothers I know are good moms, enjoy their kids, and don't feel the need to justify their decisions by having others around them make the same one."

I have often said that the people I am no longer friends with who are bad parents, I quit being friends with long before they bred because of the very personality traits that would have (and did) make them bad parents. I don't get these folks who seem to think bad parenting springs from some void.

It would seem you and I are much the same in the friend choosing department.