How old were the children when they were adopted? I hate to say it, but after a certain point a kid's going to be permanently unattached and cause nothing but pain for everyone, including himself. I know, I know, blowing apart my own arguments in favor of adoption, but life is complicated.

What bothers me is that you're saying that adoption treats life as disposable, but abortion doesn't. What could give that message more strongly than terminating a pregnancy?

Keeping adoption in mind as a possibility for myself far down the road (I'm eighteen, for crying out loud), mostly because of my own terror at the possibility of having a son with the same psychological problems as my brother. Looks like I'll have to deal with some issues either way, but at least an adopted kid would have a fighting chance at getting through it.