And now I'm going to contradict with a simple observation: Why does it have to be if a man is capable of calling a woman on her shit, he ought to be the one sleeping with her?

I've had plenty of men in my life, older and my age, capable of getting me to see sense and making me see myself as being an ass at given points in time. Of my last four bosses, three of them were exactly like that (and I don't have normal "boss-employee" relationships with my superiors - if I can't give them shit and take it in return, I don't last long at the place; fortunately, I can get away with that in my line of work). Sometimes, a person just needs someone - whether it's a female or a male - who'll sigh and say "That'll do, pig." (To borrow from "Babe.")